Questions from people in the sourroundings
In contrast to siblings who seem to know too much are those who have difficulty understanding what is so special about their baby brother or sister. This is especially true of younger children, who are still very egocentric. Seeing others in the family make a "big deal" about the baby’s hearing loss may set them wondering what is wrong with their brother or sister. So try to explain the situation at a level they can understand.
Check out the resource list for grandparents and siblings. It provides a list of books that explain hearing loss and hearing instruments in different ways, for different age groups. You can also visit our recommended reading section for more information.
Aside from being forced to adjust to having a sibling who is hearing impaired, brothers and sisters face a number of personal and family issues. On a personal level, they may feel irritated by questions such as: "Why does your brother speak so funny?" "What are those things he’s wearing?" "What’s wrong with him - is he retarded?" Such comments can be hurtful, and siblings need to know what to say in response.
If you can help them understand the hearing loss and related issues they will be able to provide clear answers to such questions. Parents can even do role-plays to practise the right behaviour. There is nothing wrong in telling someone the truth and educating that person about the child’s hearing loss and what it takes to help them.
